Stop Blaming Others For Your Situation, Do This Instead
Have you ever felt the need to blame someone else for something that happened or didn’t happen to you? It is far easier and comforting to put yourself in the victim role by blaming your misfortunes on something else. By blaming others, you excuse yourself from having to make any changes in your life. You also excuse yourself from doing one of the hardest things on Earth for some people to do, that is to be self-aware. When you stop blaming others, you take ownership of what goes wrong in your life and only then can you begin to make positive changes.
By blaming others you are wanting to uphold your self-esteem and your self-image.
Being self-aware means, you know who you are as a person. You know your weaknesses and your strengths. You also know that when you make a mistake, you own up to it and you don’t try to pin it on anything else. This is when you start to develop critical thinking, and your life will begin to change as more good things start happening for you.
In my company, we teach something called “Above The Line or Below The Line” and we teach how to stop blaming others. This saying and its the methods are from one of the largest business coaching franchises in the world, ActionCOACH.
In Pakistan, I have noticed that a lot of people like to blame their lack of opportunities or their joblessness on the government. While the government has a TON to do with the economy of a nation and the available opportunities within, it is also up the individual to put themselves in the best possible position to land a job when it presents itself.
If you are below the line, then you are going to sit around and do nothing because you would rather play the victim card. You would rather blame others and the government than pick yourself up and gain the necessary skills to compete for the best jobs. As mentioned before, it’s much easier to be a victim and blame others for your misfortunes.
If you are above the line, then you don’t make excuses for yourself. You understand the competition for good jobs is tough, so you need to strengthen your skills.
As a business owner, we only want employees that behave above the line. We know we can trust them, we know that with each mistake they make they will learn and grow. Below the line employees are un-coachable, untrainable and downright make miserable employees. You can’t have these types of employees; they will crush your business.
If you are an employee, you do not want to be below the line because you will create a toxic work environment for yourself and others. People will learn that you are a person that will quickly throw them under the bus any chance you get to save your ass. You won’t be trusted, and management will view you like a cancer.
Chances are people that live below the line don’t even realize it. They have lived their whole lives denying any wrongdoings, and have gotten through life taking the easy road, the victim road. You need to distance yourself from these types of people or maybe point out to them what you learned here on this blog, and maybe you can help make a difference in their lives.
Always strive to live above the line in everything you do. People will view you as a trustworthy person, and employers will know you are a person that can lead and help others.